Why people have extramarital affairs?
Talk about a loaded subject that no one wants to chat about, this is it. Funny thing, extramarital affairs have been going on from the beginning of the world. Extramarital relationships can be loaded with evils, cause sadness, and other troubles. In addition you must wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and openness matter, finances, age dissimilarity, spiritual education, shame, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this article I shall define an affair as a long term, maybe decades long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, date married man.
Why do women have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are people seeking affairs. I am conserned typically though it is just the human state, the need for affection, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and loved. Here are a several explanations I have run across.
In nature we as humans are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasant and exciting, and sex makes us escape the real world for a brief period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Somebody are able to turn the longing on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the stimulation of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another human being, for some it is the wish to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos society has erected against extramarital affairs. For many people the yearnings will beat their fears and make them risk the rage of not only their relatives, but society also. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, possibly some of us are. Sex is awfully pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not hurt your relatives or anybody else? You would need to lessen the jeopardy you are taking. If you have the attitude that a good affair is one that is beneficial to all, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the major group, colossal actually. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, except they are comfortable in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Also there are the kids to look after. Your assets are so tangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live jointly besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that stop them completing the sex operation, at least not with their othere half. An extramarital affair sometimes solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage uharmed.
Neglect, sadly this is a frequent cause I fear. One or the other, frequently the male is sexually neglecting his woman for a tones of reasons. As a male I really am thankful to you guys neglecting your girls and making them accessible to us males of romance, making them “milf wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but evil.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, could be it is a lack of love, could be caring is not here, could be it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Maybe we have just developed apart, our general interests diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is diverce of what you want. Maybe I just don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The ultimate reason people give is, they search for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run away, for financial gain, for revenge and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.